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by starbright31

Chapter One of “The One” Misconception: My Wild Assumptions, Proposed Questions, and Love for Understanding Women.

A beautiful ballroom filled with champagne and dancing (you are too young at this point to really know what champagne is but nonetheless it is there). Your gown is exquisite with white glimmer and purple roses. The air smells like a fresh bakery of goods. Everyone is laughing, loving, and living to the fullest.

A prince walks into the room – both strapping and poised. His confidence alone takes your breathe away like a blow to the stomach. The butterflies fill the room because they can no long stay trapped inside your body. He walks down the stairs and people open like the Red Sea to make way for greatest. To your surprise, his eyes interlock with yours with a sense of urgency, as if you are everything that he was looking for in a women. He steps closer, and closer, and closer.

You begin to sweat as you look up at the clock above – 11:59pm it reads. As his lips approach your own, the clock strikes 12:00am and suddenly everything turns to dust.

All that I can say is welcome to reality. The example that I have just presented to you is a personification of the situation that surrounds the world. We get so close to the fairytale ending that we truly believe it does exist. For a moment in time, the world stands still and the true meaning of life is exposed – love. But like the ending shows, there is always a reality. And that reality is time.

But can that ever be fixed? Can we ever have the fairy tale ending in real life with the one?

I do think that it is possible because life is just a set of different perceptions. On the note, I believe that the perceptions are sometimes too complex to sift through. But let us start at the beginning and work up to the final question proposed for, “Once Upon A Time.”

Beginning as children, we become part of the Disney generation – what a great marketing scheme they have going there. Every generation will grow up into fairy tale, truly believing that princes and princesses do exist.

In particular though, as children we are bred to dream the unthinkable. At that point in time, we do not know what reality entails because we are sheltered everyday of our lives.

Q: Do you not think that we are all setting ourselves up for failure?

I am not saying that society should hex Disney for believing in the magic of a beautiful world, but it seems that society is consistently setting itself up for failure at a young age. Adults already know that life is not a bed of roses, but yet they expose children to the idea that it is everyday.

This brings me to timing and relationships. As children, whether a boy or girl, we see the fantasy world of fairy tale relationships and pretend to by apart of it. Even though most boys think that girls have “cooties”, they are more kind and passionate than ever. At that point in time, they are not thinking about sexual relationships, but rather platonic. Girls are exposed as beautiful, pretty, and elegant – as I believe they always should be. Girls are looked at in a different light from a boys perceptive because boys have yet been exposed to the crap that surrounds the world.

Over time, I believe that it is the males that lose the mindset of perceiving women as princesses – and females just adapt and adjust accordingly. When it comes down to it, women want to make a man happy and therefore sacrifice the storybook fairytale ending to survive.

The timing is just off. As stupid and weird as this sounds, here me out ladies. If we got married at the age of five when fairy tales were apart of our lives, that would be the life that you always wished. As a male species, we would be able to give you the prince that you always desired because we are uncorrupted at that point in time.

Q: Would you agree that men change and women conform to the attitudes of men as the grow?

I know that it is much more complex then that though. Time continues to move. I have always wished that life would be more like a movie – where we just repeated scenes and never have to walk out of the movie theater and back into reality. But the reality sucks that after the final kiss, we still have years and years to continuous relationship. What happens to Cinderella and the Prince after the final kiss and the curtains close? We will never know and that is the point. He probably has an affair and she probably becomes a drug addict, but those are things that we shield ourselves from at a young age.

So Once Upon A Time really becomes Once Upon Continuous Times, where a moment of love really is struck with the realities of moments in battle with time. When we are passionate, compassionate, and inspired for true love, the timing is just wrong. We are too young.

When the time does come for marriage, it seems that we are never in the right mindset.

But like I said before, I truly believe that the problem lies in the male. More than relationships, many of the worlds problems fall to the ignorance and arrogance of men. The reason for this is because we lack the secret ingredients that women possess – nurture, human compassion, and care. In Once Upon A Time land, we possess these traits as men. But like I have proclaimed, over time, our “mocho” mindset withers these traits or passes the burden onto women. We make decisions that are irrational, self-destructive, and degrading to the human race – mostly because of money, power, status, and image. It is the women that are always looking to express love lost in the world.

Don’t get me wrong, not all men are like this, but what I am trying to get across is that, as men, we are not naturally “mocho”. I think that is a trait that is embedded in society and recirculated through generations. Otherwise, we would be irrational, self-destructive, and degrading to the human race at the age of five. But instead we are princes to your imagination.

I think because I have been surrounded by women all of my life, I see this personality transformation take place – I was on this track for it as well. But then I realized, to some capacity, why women do what they do. For example, Spring Break rolls around and women put on as little as possible, parade the beach, and enter booty shaking contests – they are bred for sex appeal. Once Upon A Time, the sex appeal was long, elegant white glimmering dresses, flowers, and flirting conversation. That is what made them feel wanted and special. As men change, women still desire to look for love and satisfaction of male desire, so what do they do? They shake it onstage at a beach in Cabo.

There are always outliers, and I am sure that some women just naturally love to have sex appeal for self-confidence. But that does not mean that we, as men, have not integrated that mindset into your everyday thought. If only we stayed in Once Upon A Time land.

Q: If women ruled the world, do you think that sex appeal would be different? More than that, do you think that many aspects of the human race would change?

The final question that I have been working up to is now upon us — it allows for multiple answers and gossip amongst you ladies.

Q: What do you think needs to happen for fairytale endings to occur?